What is Your Child’s Behavior Saying?

Ever consider that while we are trying to get our kids to do or behave how we want, they are also trying to communicate a want or need to us? How often do we stop to consider what their behavior is communicating?

Behavior is communication.

Especially for little ones who aren’t yet able to express themselves in words. It is up to us to decipher that communication. And, doing so allows us to teach our kids to work together collaboratively, rather than through arguments and force.

When we take the time to stop and understand our kid's wants and needs, then work within them to address behaviors or move forward in the needed direction, we’re much more likely to reduce difficulties along the way. Their wants and needs are just as legitimate as our own, even if they aren’t possible in that moment.

So how do we decipher the communication of behavior?

For starters consider the most common. Are they:

• hungry or tired?

• needing attention? (this is a legitimate need)

• overstimulated or over excited?

• bored or need to move?

• frustrated or disappointed?

• anxious or afraid?

• experiencing other big emotions? (even the “positive” ones can overwhelm)

• developmentally unable to meet our expectations in the moment?

• fully understanding what is expected and why?

By taking the time to decipher the communication of behavior, we have a much easier time engaging cooperative behavior.